This article was inspired by recent workplace events which led me to rethinking my approaches.
I know it's extrely hard for technical experts to be good, inclusive leaders, so this is an outreach to change the shituation (typo intended).
First, I'm a person. I have feelings, aspirations, problems. Ergo, talk to me, I'm always open to civil discussions. Treat me like a factory worker, disregard my feelings, humanity, and you loose all respect and demotivate me to perform at my highest.
Second, I'm a set of skills that need to be developed. Sadly, mind reading is not one of them. So tell me in plain language your expectations or write them down. Don't expect from me something you told me in your head.
Third, my skills need to be developed. Help me, point out something I need to learn, don't tell me my mistakes. Again, I'm not a mind reader.
Now that you read it, understand that this is not my ego talking. This is me reaching out to you. I am interested to be my best self, to perform at my best. But your actions might be suppressing me. With this in mind reread this article from the start. Let it sink in. Meditate about it.